For those with a New Year’s resolution of adding a little spice to their life, a sex expert has revealed the kinkiest new bedroom trends for 2025.
Dr Jessica O’Reilly, a sexologist and relationship expert, serves up five ‘novel approaches’ to sex, which she promises will lead to a more fulfilling experience between the sheets.
To enhance arousal and pleasure, Dr O’Reilly advises trying ‘multisensory integration,’ which involves stimulating sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell, while having sex.
This, she says, will ‘create richer and more fulfilling experiences.’
Among her other top tips, Dr O’Reilly advises people to incorporate adventurous positions, music and even erotic art to ramp up their sex lives.
She wrote for Astro Glide: ‘As we approach 2025, new year’s resolutions begin to take center-stage. Goals often relate to fitness, diet, finances, travel and daily practices with health and self-improvement topping the list of planned commitments.
‘Relationships and sex may not claim top spots among resolutions despite the fact that prioritizing intimacy, pleasure, and connection can be just as transformative.
‘Of course, the best sex of your life isn’t just about the physical act itself, but is intertwined with emotional connection, exploring desires, cultivating confidence, and embracing curiosity and playfulness.’
Dr Jessica O’Reilly, who is based out of Toronto, advises trying out ‘multisensory integration’, which involves stimulating sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell, while having sex
Estimates suggest nearly 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, and sexual satisfaction – or rather dissatisfaction – is a major driver for calling its quits, so keeping things interesting in the bedroom could be marriage-saving.
Ignite the senses
To keep things spicy, Dr O’Reilly first recommends visual stimulation. She suggests using ‘ambient lighting like dimmable lamps, colored lightbulbs or candles to create a visually appealing environment.’
For an even bolder approach, she says you can also consider ‘hanging erotic art or playing sexy videos in the background’ while being intimate with a partner.
Next, Dr O’Reilly recommends ‘auditory enhancement,’ writing that sound can be a turn on.
She advises making a music playlist with tracks on it that ‘move you.’
To ignite a little more passion, she adds: ‘You may opt for rhythms that guide your hips or symphonies that create crescendos of emotion.
‘Use whispered affirmations and erotic storytelling to set the mood.’
Next, Dr O’Reilly looks at how you can make touch more than just skin-to-skin contact with a range of different objects, from textured bed linens to silky lingerie.
The relationship expert explains: ‘Introduce varied textures through bedding, clothing and accessories.
‘Silk sheets, velvet cushions or textured blindfolds and restraints can provide novel sensations.
‘Incorporate temperature play with warmed or cooled objects to stimulate nerve endings.’
Spicing things up for the New Year, sexologist Dr Jessica O’Reilly has revealed some of her top sex kinks for 2025
To ‘play with cooling sensations across the entire body,’ Dr O’Reilly’s top tip is storing lubricant in the fridge before a rendezvous.
In terms of igniting your sense of smell, scented candles, essential oils and incense sticks are among her suggestions.
And when it comes to which scent to pick, she says vanilla, jasmine, peppermint and sandalwood are associated with heightened arousal.
Lastly, when it comes to incorporating taste into sex, she suggests incorporating flavored lubes, edible body paints and aphrodisiac foods such as oysters, chocolates and strawberries into your routine.
And one bedroom tool Dr O’Reilly says is essential: lube, which can be used for ‘sensory mapping.’
She explains: ‘Lube can be more than just a practical tool – it’s an invitation to explore your partner’s body in new and exciting ways through pleasure mapping.
‘This practice involves discovering areas of the body that bring the most pleasure when touched, kissed, or stimulated.
‘By adding a few drops of lube, you can heighten sensations and transform even familiar areas into sources of unexpected pleasure.’
She suggests starting out by applying a small amount of lube to various areas of your partner’s body such as their neck, inner arms, lower back, or thighs.
Then, you can follow on by ‘gently exploring each area using your hands, lips, or even a makeup brush, while observing their reactions.’
To make the process more ‘playful and exploratory,’ Dr O’Reilly says you can invite your partner to close their eyes so that they can ‘tune into the experience.’
Touching on the benefits of ‘sensory mapping,’ she concludes: ‘It is more than physical – it’s a way to deepen intimacy, understanding and connection.
‘By combining touch with attentive listening to your partner’s responses, you create a shared journey of discovery, celebrating new pathways to pleasure and strengthening your bond.’
Switch up oral sex
Two more of Dr O’Reilly’s sex tips for 2025 look at different methods of oral sex.
Her first technique, called ‘the joystick,’ involves the receiver using their hands on the back of the giver’s head to move them around ‘like a joystick, directing the pace, rhythm, and intensity to align with their desires’.
To increase intimacy further, Dr O’Reilly advises maintaining eye contact when possible and for both parties to use ‘tantalizing verbal affirmations.’
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Different sounds or words, she says, will allow the receiver to ‘communicate enthusiasm,’ while they can be used by the server to ‘reinforce their willingness to give pleasure.’
Dr O’Reilly predicts the other type of oral sex that will be on trend in 2025 is ‘irrumatio.’
She explains this is a variation where the receiver takes the lead, ‘guiding the motion as their penis enters their partner’s mouth at their preferred pace and depth.’
As this puts the receiver in control, she warns as with any intimate activity, ‘open communication about desires, limits, and boundaries is essential before engaging.’
In scenarios where verbal safe words may not be feasible she advises establishing non-verbal signals – such as snapping fingers or raising a hand – in advance.
Go to the brink of pleasure
Dr O’Reilly’s final top kink for the New Year is a sexual technique called ‘edging.’
Edging is the practice of stimulating yourself or your partner to the point of climax but stopping just before reaching orgasm, resulting in greater sexual pleasure.
Along with feeling ‘localized intensity,’ Dr O’Reilly says this technique – which can be repeated multiple times – gives a ‘full-body wave of pleasure from prolonged stimulation.’
She adds: ‘In addition to intensified physical sensations, the emotional overwhelm of edging can take pleasure and connection to new heights.
‘For couples, edging fosters communication, trust, and intimacy by encouraging mutual exploration and anticipation. It can also allow for extended states of arousal to amplify desire and deepening emotional vulnerability.’
